Dr. Ruth | That Was Abuse on Instagram: "Step 14: Start Hoarding Cash If your partner controls the money, you have to start small. Take the loose bills, spare change, forgotten gift cards. Anything that he doesn’t track counts as a resource. And NONE of it is “too little.” I had almost NO access to money my ex didn’t monitor. So while he was gone I ransacked the house (pockets, drawers, old bags, the junk drawer) and collected anything I could find. The end result of all that work was about $50.